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Mar 14, 2021Liked by Nilofer Merchant

I’d say nearly every coaching engagement involves developing values re quitting. Stop or Continue? Stay or Go? I have enough experience to know that quitting is an art, and a well-done quit has weighed the reality carefully. The Seventh-Day Adventist Plan To Stop Smoking builds in the reality of human frailty and the routine is designed to distract the body and brain from nicotine withdrawal. People fail at their quitting attempts when the nicotine cravings get too strong to withstand. This plan asks quitters to undertake a Day One routine that works to distract most people through the worst day. How can you foresee the ways your #quit could become a #fail and plan for reality? People talk about the ending of the movie The Graduate, in which two people just quit Everything, and are sitting in the back of the bus. Their facial expressions run a gamut. Quitting brings on many changes! I encourage people to check out the Emergency Exits of Life, constantly, just as a smart person scopes the exits from the hotel room, the theater, the airplane.

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Mar 15, 2021Liked by Nilofer Merchant

Sharp thoughts and insights!

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The reference to thrive, survive, struggle, crisis hit home for many reasons. The questions we start asking ourselves and others ask us as we are in one of those or another.

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"7. Are the institutional systems designed to listen to those who already have power, or open to being shaped by new voices and new ideas?" - Nilofer powerful share and I found this statement to be the root cause of the 7 questions you ask, almost the anti-Onlyness sentiment.

Organisational silence by design and it is by design = minimal unleashing of Onlyness, if at all. Thank you for this post and important provocations.

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