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"SOME LOVE IS JUST A LIE OF THE SOUL

I got a lovely follow-up note from those podcast folks.

“You were at your brilliant best, charismatic and insightful, and a true joy to work with. The response we received from fellow panelists and Daniel was nothing but positive.

I hope you enjoyed it, as much as we did hosting you.”

And when I wrote back that while I hated to say it, I didn’t enjoy it. I didn’t like being forgotten. Or having all the men plug each others’ books without mentioning my three notable books. Or being asked to introduce myself rather than someone vouching for me.

And they wrote back,

“Reading your email really hurt me.”

Le Sigh. Even their response showed it was all about them, instead of hearing me.

And so you know what I think?

I think you’re brilliant in figuring out the room before deciding if they are worthy of your truths. Do that more. Trust that part of you that knows you deserve to be seen."

My reflections:

I know I have copied a large chuck of your words today Nilofer, but for me personally it is important. It costs ZERO to see fully another human. It costs ZERO to uplift another human. It is downright rude that you and your work was not valued in terms of acknowledgment nor air time as your peers yet this is another pandemic in the workplace.

Good (not so good!) old fashioned if your face fits and it causes me least discomfort, "there you go," the floor is yours. #anti-Onlyness, pure wasted human potential.

So much more I want to say yet I will not take up any more space, constructive exploration is why your Onlyness gatherings exist, this Weds 19th Jan is gonna be lively, yet constructive.

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Love the message ... The Lotus Flower video nailed it in another medium as well.

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